In the heat of the moment eg with the late back from contact situation – it is very tempting just to get angry – the other person is wrong – they broke the agreement to bring the child back at 5 so you are entitled to be angry. But does it make a difference being…
Ask yourself some questions: What is it that is not working in this situation? What am I always complaining about? What can I be responsible for? How does the situation occur for the other person / people? How do they see it? What’s missing for me or them in the situation or conversation that it…
First listen to yourself as you have conversations with your friends and work colleagues about life in generally and particularly listen for the times when you use the words always or never or similarly general words. Or when you start talking about your rights in the situation? When do you use these expressions? Identify the…
Can you think of a time when you just knew exactly what the other person in a conversation was going to say? No? Not even your mother when you phone after a long gap in contact? Or how they were going to react? No? Not even your partner when you want to go to visit…
I am posting a short series of posts about a philosophy of family law which I hope will provide food for thought for those of you who are locked in a family law battle and can’t see a way out. Once they are posted I will put them altogether in one article and link to…
If you have the benefit of legal representation, then your first port of call should be to your solicitor in asking for advice on what to do next. Even if you do not like their advice, you should give it very serious consideration. Care proceedings are emotionally fraught by their very nature and a decision…
I have once again been asked a common question. Two parents have a child and then separate – the father leaves and does not pursue contact, direct or indirect and does not contribute to the child’s maintenance for some years. What can the resident parent do to ensure the child is properly looked after in…
I am often asked whether it is possible to force the non-resident parent to have more contact than they seem to want. It is always possible for parents to agree together whatever contact arrangements they think are suitable. It quite often provides a welcome break for the main carer if the other parent takes up…
Well I am back from the abyss of work I have been plunged into post Baby P although despite statements to the effect that things are slowing down it is marginal. An interesting question has been exercising me: can a holder of a shared residence order take a child on holiday abroad without the consent…
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